Kendall

I'm a 21yo woman, reasonably attractive (I take pride in my appearance), and I enjoy a lot of tomboyish activities. I play the odd video game, love to watch rugby and other sports, prefer beer over other alcoholic beverages, and I'm not afraid to get mucky (I grew up on farms). I'm very comfortable talking to guys and have a very simplistic attitude about most things. I wear make-up, but not a lot, and prefer dressing in denim jeans/shorts and t-shirts. I'm also reasonably tall (5'10"). I also love food, but keep fit with an active, outside job working with horses. I spent a lot of time in rugby clubs as a kid and I think I gleaned my personality from that.

The question I have is - do I intimidate men? Very few have been interested in me over the years, and only one has ever wanted to date me (although that ended terribly because I was too immature to handle a relationship). Several others have only wanted to sleep with me, and were very open about that fact so I turned them down. I kind of regret it now because I am a 21yo virgin who hasn't been kissed since she was 17. I live in a city whose population is made up mostly of students because there is a university here (which I attend). But despite the 100,000 or so people my age here nobody seems to want me. It's getting seriously depressing because my younger brother (who is 20 and also attends uni here) is popular amongst girls, and my younger sister (who is 17 and does modelling) has had guys drooling over her for years and is currently dating a great guy. I've been on a grand total of one proper date and two day-dates (for dances) in my life. The guys I used to be interested in are now married, and one even has a kid already.

I feel very alone a lot of the time and it's beginning to get to me. It's so frustrating when I go home to my parents' and they repeatedly ask me if I "have a man yet". I don't know why it's so hard to find one person who wants to be in a relationship with me.

To make matters worse - I am bisexual and no women are into me either!

Am I just doomed to be alone forever?

Please don't answer with that generic "just wait, it'll get better!" crap.