Birthday Party Help!?

invite the 2 younger ones and then say if ur other kids want to come and bring friends they can bowl next to us or something

making clear that they really aren't invited but ull welcome them

I see no problem in saying that the two younger ones are invited. They're clearly your daughter's friends. The 11 and 14 year old are too old to go anyway. If your friend wants to bring her older children, then it would only be fair for her to pay for them herself. May be that's sounds cruel to some people, but if it were me, I wouldn't mind hearing that I would need to pay for my two older children.

Next time you do something like this, make it to where all parents chip in something so you're not stuck with the whole expense. May be like your own discount price, and then you pay the difference. That way it won't cost you so much. :-) May be like $4 or $5 per child for your own discounted price. :-)

Have fun! I can't wait to take my son bowling when he gets older. He's three right now. I'll probably wait one more year. He loves playing bowling on the computer. :-)

Hope this helps. It is a hard situation you're in because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but to me, there's nothing wrong in what you are wanting to ask of that parent. :-)

I think that it would an awful assumption on the part of the parents whose children you would be inviting to assume that the older siblings would automatically be invited too, first of all. I have an 8 year old, and am going through the same soft of situation. I had invited the friend of my daughter who happens to have two older siblings, and they with my daughter as well. The mother of the child that was actually invited called me up and asked if the two other ones could come along, and I said that I didn't have a problem with that, but they might want to send along some money with them because you only made a budget for those that were invited. She totally understood what I was talking, and where I was coming from, and gladly sent the money along with the two older ones. So perhaps if you have a talk with the parents involved, it might help things go a little smoother...

Well, i see your point, but in reality, it would be really rude not to invite all of the children. But think about this for a sec....what place does an 11 and 14 yr old have at 6year old girls party?? They might be thinking 'O great..a kiddie party'. Maybe consider asking the older kids if they would help out with the children and that would be an "exhchange" for bowling. You might want to ask if there are party packages....there should be, and it might be cheaper and include the price of shoes and bumpers.

No I don't think you would be stepping on anyone's toes by inviting the two younger one's because the party is not the older kids age group anyway. So the older ones wouldn't want to hang out with the younger kids anyway.

well i would just invite the younger children and tell them if the older kids really want to go and be seen w/younger kids ( most likely the 14 year old would not) they have to pay for the older kids (that's what we always do and no one gets hurt)

it will look rude if you don't pay for the older children once they are there, but i'd be surprised if they turned up at a 6 year olds birthday party. I think not inviting them should be ok though, understandably.

your not going to hurt any body's feelings so y not just don't pay for the two older people. Its suppose to be your child's party and with her friends not here friends older brother or sister. if it was my sister and she has a party at a bowling party i would feel so ashamed of my self to be with little kids.

that sounds fair...or...Tell them that if they bring all three kids and they want you to pay, that this is the list of gifts that your daughter wants and you expect them to buy her two nice gifts. I did that with similar situation and the mom was ok with it. She just wanted all her kids included. Or they could come and have cake and ice cream and just understand that older kid could not bowl.

I think you should just invite the two younger ones. The older kids probably wouldn't have fun. I bet they wouldn't really care.