why is it that people act more hateful when someone dies?

people in today's culture are not taught to handle their emotions well. Children grow up being trained to feed the flesh, having life cushioned for them, being constantly entertained in order to avoid rather than face and deal with hard times, difficult people and sad or hurtful situations.

Death is one of those things you cannot avoid or hide away from.

A person that does not, themselves, deal with adversity and tough times very well will have a hard time having compassion and empathy for others- they cannot see past how this painful situation affects them.

In a time where it makes sense that people would come together and share their grief and comfort each others, those that are self absorbed only want comfort, they are unable to give or share comfort and when their own grief is not the center of attention they tend to lash out in anger - it is a twisted expression of their own grief and/ or inability to deal with the situation.

Unfortunately, often our first response is to react in anger or indignation at that persons inappropriate behavior and this only feeds their fire and gives them what they feel is justification to continue acting this way.

The best thing to do is ignore their folly, kill them with kindness but do not make them the center of attention.

Let them know, if their behavior gets out of control, that it will not be tolerated in your home or any social setting you might have authority in, otherwise, just ignore the rude comments and angry outbursts and encourage others to do so as well.

Well when someone you love dies, people get depressed because they are grieving. They are pained very much that this person is no longer here and it hurts very much. How people deal with this grief depends on the person. Some people turn into hermits and seclude themselves. They don't want to be around people. But then other people, it makes them extremely irritable. It's not that they are wanting to be rude or wanting to hurt you, but that they are just on the edge all the time right now and they will be for a while. They are just like a walking time bomb waiting to explode and you may get the brunt of the explosion. I know when I feel this way (more yes then no) I am this way. You better stay out of the way or you're gonna pay. It's not because I want to hurt you, or make you feel terrible, but I just can't keep it all in and my emotions get expressed in ways that I don't want and you just happen to be the one to pick up the pieces. Sorry!

But anyway...hope this helps you out. The only reason why I know this stuff is from personal experience. Sometimes that is the best teacher.

When someone dies, those left behind are usually dealing with intense emotions. These emotions can bring out the best--or worst--in people, depending on the person.

Try to be patient. Everyone handles grief differently.

They feel hateful because if the person who died meant a lot to them, it will feel to them that their life will never be the same, and living doesn't matter anymore without that person living. Also, some people seem like someone wants to replace their loved one (like a grandmother stepping in for the death of a mother) which makes them really angry and sad.

They just take out their pain and anger about the loss out on other people because they don't know how to cope with it. Just be patient and kind, and try your best to understand what they're going through. That's all you can do.

They don't...or they're not SUPPOSED to anyways.

It's very rude to dishonor the person's death. People used to be much more respectful of the dead, like the Greeks would mount a funeral pyre and mourn for days and everything. Nowadays people are less likely to be sympathetic.

because of thier childhood or background

for ex ample if a kid grew up in the hood watching people die he is going to act more hateful towards death because he expericenced it so much oir if u lost someone like a mom or dad ur going to think death is evil and everything about it is evil

Well anger is a stage of grief, as is denial. It is their way of coping with it. The best thing to do is to try and comfort them and talk about it.

i hate that ppl. do that..whne i lost papa..my cuzins started going threw his stuff and bitching...know in my heart how papa was ..the last thing he would ever wan that ...it is just self centered *** holes wanting the attention and can't stand to share it..even at the price of the dead

they are bitter that the person died over you or me...its really sad, my mom's best friend just died and everyone acts that way. the lady was only 35 and she died of cancer, its a n emotional process.