Why do christian married men commit adultry?

With 30% of paternity tests coming back negative, I think the women are just as much at fault. It takes more than one quickie to get pregnant.

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There are many, many levels of maturity in Christianity. And ppl's baggage doesn't get checked at the door. So if he was into dirty things before it follows him. If his heart is open and he really wants to change then God is certainly big enough to heal him. But sounds to me like he has no intention of changing, from what little you said.

Also keep in mind that there are many people who are "Christians" in name only. It's kind of like saying, "I'm Italian" but not speaking the language and not having anything to do with the culture except that you know that 80 years ago your ancestor came over on the boat. So you're Italian. It may be that his heart just isn't in the religion. I've heard that many secular men are into porn. If he's living like that without remorese (that's the key) then I wouldn't say he's a Christian at all.

You are well within your rights to divorce, even under Biblical teaching. There's nothing wrong with you. If a man wants to cheat there is nothing a woman can do to stop him, no matter how great you are. I mean, look at all the super-model looking, rich women just this year that we've found out have unfaithful husbands.

Sorry for your troubles. Best of luck to you.

there is a story in the bible about king david and a general in his army uriah.

king david saw uriah's wife up on the roof taking a bath. it is suggested by wikipedia's explanation that king david was mesmerized by bathsheba's beauty. in my mind, king david went into heat the minute he saw bathsheba and decided he wanted her for himself.

let me hasten to point out that king david already had a thousand wives.

david hatched a plan to get rid of general uriah in a hurry. he ordered uriah to the front of a battle and he was killed almost immediately.

naturally, king david was able to add uriah's wife to his stable.

check point:

1) the question in my mind from time to time has been; was he able to service all his wives.

2) i suspect many of his wives were obtained under nefarious circumstances.

3) i also suspect many of those women in his stable were in need of his attention, could get no attention from him and whenever the opportunity arose, they would let a piece fly, kings woman or not.

4) on the other hand, men in those days had many wives and just as many children. for example ramses ll, pharoah of egypt is reported to have has 67 children. he must have been very busy.

in my own case, i never betrayed my wife's love for me and i was never unfaithful to her. in fact for the record, if i saw an attractive woman i would point out the woman to my wife, she would always ask if that what i want or if she is my type. i would always assure her what i wanted was sitting right next to me.

the fact is men see attractive women all the time and given the ideal set of circumstances will be unfaithful about 60% of the times. same for women. christian or not.

a question i have about becoming personal with a strange woman is; if you really make love to her it becomes so intimate and personal that you have to be concerned about hygiene and venereal diseases. in other words, can / should a man or woman be willing become so deeply personal with a person whose health status is unknown and possibly seriously questionable if he/she disrobes so readily?

being christian becomes secondary in the process, i presume

interestingly, in some so called primitives societies, they may have resolved the problem. i saw a national geographic episode on indians in brazil. when a woman reaches a certain age, in her 50's, she is able to take a few junior husbands.i think what happens is they realize that when a man gets older his testosterone levels are lower and therefore, he is unable to do the needed as often as he should, bearingin mind that the female may still be very, willing and able.

likewise, at a certain time in the year, lets say at the top of summer, the entire tribe goes to the river and everybody is game.

so while there are marriages so to speak, provisions are made for variety and that the young and old get a fair share.

so here it is 2010 and women in the usa have come up with the cougar fad. while the indians in brazil have worked out the solution acceptable to all years and years ago.

i suspect there is something to be said for being primitave and solving the problem of jealousy and the need to behave like a butterfly, sometimes.

It all lies in that little thing called "forbidden fruit." there is an excitement that becomes an addiction. Most religions alow for polygamy. Believe it, or not, it is even allowed by Christianity. The Apostle Paul said a man should only have one wife if he is to serve the Church, and that wife should BE the Church. However, in the 1800's, women and their jealousy, which stems from vanity, forced our government to outlaw polygamy on a state-by-state basis, which is a direct violation of the Constitutional ban on religious freedoms. As a result, cheating by ALL religions is rampant. Don't just lay it on the Christians.

Legally, its not adultery if the person is divorced. Morally, most religions have no problem with divorced people remarrying. There sometimes need to be special conditions met, like Catholics have to get dispensation if they were married in a Catholic ceremony and then divorced. Also, the Bible allows for divorce in certain circumstances such as multiple adultery. So, no. If you marry a divorced person you are not commiting adultery.

Did your husband cheat on you or is he just looking at pornography? I'm just confused, sorry. Not just christian men cheat but non christian men cheat to. If you want my thoughts on why I think christian men would rather cheat than get into a divorce, I'd say because many Christians don't believe in divorce.

Yes its wrong,But then some men & women do fall into traps like the one mentioned by you.The fact is that they have no / less self control on their emotions, or maybe just wish to try it out to see how it feels.Fact is its all in the mind.If you have the courage you hold yourself firm,if not you do the unjust.Its unfortunate but it is a fact of life,and there are many out there,So either we accept it / fight it/or learn to live with it.All religions ask us to avoid such acts.But then again how many people are so Religious ? Let us just Hope that realization makes these type of people see their fault and helps them turn around.

The "man" is not ready and has NOT matured. Sadly you are the one being placed on the back burner and getting burned! Yes, you would think that a Christian married man would have a conscience, considering his vows that he made to his wife and to GOD. But again, until a man matures and realizes what he wants and is content with his choice......the cheating will never end. The bigger question is? How long will you cheat yourself?

I may catch negativity from this, but here goes my theory (45/f):

I believe men were not meant to have intercourse with one women for life. (See the meaning of the marriage term "7 year itch"). However, before, during or after the actual marriage, a man and women will generally speak on forsaking all others. All I have to do is to look at the males in my life (like brothers, uncles, etc) to see that most crave that variety momentarily and love has nothing to do with the forsaking.

You just chose a loser, unfortunately. There are a lot of jerks out there, but believe it or not, you can find some truly good men, if you look hard enough. Just watch for red flags, and when you see them, run. (Watch how people treat other people. That is a key to the type person they are. They will try to trick you, by treating you very nice in the beginning, but they will still treat others the way the usually do.)

1. do u have kids?

2. why don't u speak up!!!!? to him.

3. why the hell can't u make him happy?

4. do u have fun? like sex, movies, park, or video games... etc.

5. forget about the freaking religion, men are men as long as they are from earth, so by the coment of that... it seems u are the reason of what u asked... ure a boring wife, but i promise that if u made sacrifises about changing u, u would be way more happy and so would he...

6. are u up to a change, if not don't expect to find someone that is going to las for more than 5 years... everything get borring... and talking about what u like... (BOTH OF U) u can live together a long life...

i like to answer by asking u, so that u can find the answer u need. luck :-)