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Adrian asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

How do I become normal and get rid of authoritarian parenting effects?

I'm 18. My father was extremely strict through out my upbringing and was a textbook example of authoritarian parenting. I'm shy, have no self-confidence, low self-esteem, and I'm not social. How do I break out of my shell and become the person I was supposed to be?

Update:

I'm not blaming anyone. What's done is done. But how can I leave all of this behind? I feel crippled in a sense.

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    What are your hobbies? I'm sure you can find a good friend who you can relate to.

    If all your hobbies are solitary (ie. reading/watching TV) then try to find a new hobby that is more social (online videogames/sports/clubs)

    You can't change on your own, you need information and thoughts from the outside. It can be from books, stranger's opinions on the internet or real relationships, doesn't really matter, your brain will slowly but surely adapt to the new information you're given and you will change.

    Also make sure you always have a solid relationship with someone. Doesn't matter if it's a psychologist, life coach, parent, friend, teacher or anything else as long as you trust them and get along particularly well with them.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Statistically, the main properly rounded and chuffed little ones are the end results of authoritative parenting, which balances parental administration and toddler autonomy. That being suggested, the effectiveness of the numerous varieties can variety widely via ways continually they are carried out to the geographic area. a toddler growing to be up in the ambience you describe is far less probably to resent it if their life form is time-honored - that's what their friends are doing. although, in case you are trying this in the initiatives, you're probably to advance a toddler no person likes, is bullied, and a great deal resents your parenting form. The be sure's earnings could additionally dictate no rely if or no longer it fairly is an effectual form. It expenses funds to maintain your little ones in those varieties of extra curriculars. And shall we face it, once you're a unmarried be sure working around the clock to furnish those issues on your little ones, do you fairly think of the mice arent playing together as the cats away?? And at what factor does the stress overshadow any high quality kin time? upload.. in accordance with the respond under mine, i'd trust maximum of what you suggested there. however the challenge is presented in while there is not any autonomy in any respect. What sturdy is it to understand the violin, once you definitely hate the violin yet love the piano? Are you certainly achieving something via forcing baseball rather of ballet? via combating your little ones from having any friends in any respect? i will furnish you that I fairly have not study the e book, however the way people communicate approximately this parenting form is the youngster is a mini grownup spending their life on my own. physique them around training, nice, yet i think of youngsters want pals, and that they want exciting, and so do adults, and there is not any rationalization why you cant have pals, have exciting, and it nevertheless be tutorial.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    We all hate our parents because of the way we turned out, but in the end, the blame's on you.

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