Dating and Trust issues?

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I have trust issues due to family issues. I never really had a mother, she went mentally insane when I was a small child and my sisters, my father and I left. My father has trust issues because he had four kids with that. He's always getting upset with me for small things and then leaves without saying anything. He comes back without saying a word or apoligizing. He does this every month since I was 14. I could probably count the times he said he loved me on my hands.  It could be for things as small as not telling him things right away. He's always telling me how I keep stabbing him in the back. Anyway, I don't trust men because of this. How do I start dating if I don't trust people? Please help me.

Marianne · Answer

start by sorting out your own life. have you talked about this with your siblings? would your dad be mad if you brought it up? talking about it to your family and friends might make you feel better about it. the rest is just a question of attitude if you ask me. right now, you are afraid because you keep thinking "i have trust issues". most issues are mostly in your head because you're so fixed on them, and how to get rid of them. i know it's not easy but it's worth a try: let go for a second. don't think about whether or not you have an issue when you're around guys. if you like him, just go for it, regardless of any issues you may or may not have. and if he likes you back, he'll respect your past and support you and you'll get over it together.

Live Laugh Love · Answer

Thank you for answering mine. But to start dating, you mainly have to realize that the person you'd be dating would not have anything to do with your past. Instead, you have to see that you could eventually trust them because they wouldn't do what was done to you by your family.

Dating and Trust issues?

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