how to get more confidence?

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im a 14 year old girl and I have no confidence or self esteem at all, I used to be bullied in primary and always told I wasn't worth it or I was ugly and boring. and now im always scared people don't like me or want to talk to me, I struggle to find things to say to people because im constantly scared people think im boring? I feel awkward around people quite a lot and even if I talk to them I keep thinking im boring and they think im ugly and I never approach guys. even though people tell me different I can never believe them... ive gotten better since last year when I was at a low and had an eating disorder but ive recovered but I still sometimes feel like that... and im not really sure how to talk to people and feel confident? :/ any advice on what I can do to boost confidence?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm fifteen and until a couple years ago I was bullied too. My self esteem dropped so low I literally couldn't see it anymore. But I learned that no matter what people think of you or say to you it's only because they think worse about themselves. I know that's what everyone says, but it's true, trust me. Now I've always been a people person and I can't seem to shut my mouth, opposite to your problem. What I suggest is be spontaneous and just jump into that conversation or if you see someone alone walk up to them and compliment them on their outfit or hair. Leave behind the fears of someone being mean and just be friendly, it works 100% of the time guaranteed! And believe people when they say you are beautiful, don't just deny it. I went through a little bit of an eating disorder and I can feel for you, it sucks. But the best part about it is gaining a little bit of respect for yourself once you get through it. So be spontaneous, love yourself for yourself, and love haters because they secretly envy you. Hope I helped!

Anonymous · Answer

Okay so basically this was me last year. No confidence, i had been at my new school for 3 years and only talked to a handful of people. i may not be good at giving advice, but i can tell you, it does get better. just challenge yourself to talk to a new person each day. And basically just be yourself. I still haven't ever talked to people before but when i can go to school and i'm just able to be myself and not care if everyone's watching or thinking i'm weird , its great. you could try asking your friends to include you in conversations. Also, i hung around with some boys for a bit, they weren't the popular guys, but just a group who were nice. I basically got used to talking to boys and now i suppose i can talk to every guy now. Just have this attitude where you dont care what people think about you anymore, and make sure people know that if they judge you or anything. hahaha sorry for the long para, good luck.

? · Answer

I'm 14 too! I'm in the same situation.
What I do is I try to do something everyday that is out of my comfort zone.
Yesterday I even went on a dinner date with my crush :') it went so great!

Anonymous · Answer

get social, go out and meet new people!

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