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Please help?!! I'm loosing him!!?

It would mean so much to me if you could help me out with this!! Thank you!!!!

I am 14 and my family moved to the UK about 5 months ago (I am originally from New Zealand). I have known this guy for about 4 months now, we go to the same school, in the same year and all. When we first started talking we seemed to clash straight away. We had so much in common, I saw him as a really good friend. He payed me so many compliments it was unreal, to the point where I started feeling uncomfortable and smothered. I couldn't take it anymore and finally told him the truth (I regret it to this day) . It was the day half term started, I made him feel horrible and we broke up as friends. We didn't talk for a week over half term. The day back at school I found out he had a girl friend. I felt a pang of jealousy but disguised it. We didn't talk for a good two weeks until he popped up! We started talking again and he suggested being good friends again, by this time I realized I had gained a good friend back but it would never be the same. I had started to like him and missed his old self. We got closer and started meeting each other outside of school and he started paying me compliments again. I realized I didn't mind at all anymore. In the week before the summer told me he had feelings for me, I knew this was the start of trouble because he had a girl friend and I knew he loved her. I had got used to the fact he loved another and always tried to ignore the fact that things would never be the same. Since the holidays started we've been talking less and he's been ignoring me. He's apologized and we've met up a few times but that's gone now. I feel hurt and I know I'm loosing him, it was only last Tuesday that he told me he had developed strong feelings for me and has been holding back from talking and seeing me because he knows its bad he likes me so much and loves another. He apologized to me and said he misses me and knows he hurt me and he said he would make an effort and sort his feelings out another way. The next day he brought his friend up to mine and we walked my dog, he said he'd text me. Since those few words I haven't heard a thing from him. I have come to realized how empty I feel without him, countless times over the summer I have cried when he ignored me and now it has become to much. I do have feelings for him and our feelings is ripping our friendship apart. I feel so hurt and lonely and long for a message from him!! Can someone please help me, what should I do with our friendship?? How can I get over my feelings?!

I know that was so long and if you took your time reading that I am so great full. I appreciate any help I get, Thank you so much!

Update:

BTW he's still going out with his girl friend!!

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
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    Wow, if you tell HIM everything I just read that you wrote, he will deffently talk to you again and you will become as good friends as you were...maby even more :-)

    I`m a 18 year old boy myself, so I know what I`m talking about when I say that all we boys want is that the girl is open with her mind, and just tells the truth :-)

    Good luck and be brave! dont be afraid to tell the full truth, because like you said he really liked you so he wouldnt hurt you :)

    -From Norway

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You like him. Tell him. If it doesn't work out, then that's that.

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