Does this mean I am gay?

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Okay so I’m in my mid teens and, this is gonna sound personal but whatever, when I jerk off, sometime I Fantasize about being somebody else, some dude who’s really buff and huge, and manly or whatever, and I fantasize about being that person and I get off on that....z.
Is that weird? Does that mean I am gay? 
I jerk off to girls too lol don’t get me wrong, but if I’m scrolling through my social media and I see some cool looking buff stud, I’d start to get off on the fantasy as I’ve already told. Just wondeirng what it’s like to be someone like that...anyways, is this normal?

? · Answer

No, it's just a fantasy.

Mx_intersex_folx · Answer

Maybe

? · Answer

Yes u r gay

Anonymous · Answer

Before details, homosexuality is a same sex attraction. Now, details. Putting aside all the bits and pieces, think for a minute. You have a choice of who you wish to cuddle with as you sleep. Would that be a male human, a female human, or so far you prefer a pet or sleeping alone and don't know yet?  One day in the future you may wish to live with a life partner, to share your life, maybe raise a family, someone to be your partner in life. Do you see yourself with someone of the same gender, or more commonly the opposite gender? Does your heart race and imagination flow in sexual fantasy in a partner of the same gender, or the other?

It's not about how you imagine yourself, but rather who you want to be with and love as a friend and partner in life. It is a good thing if you allow other people to make their own choices and you make your choices.

In your mid-teens you may know now, or not be sure, or want to explore. Everything is normal because your hormones are raging and you're curious. Don't make a girl pregnant and learn about sex. If no one is teaching you, do your own research. Learn about sexually transmitted diseases and the necessary precautions. You'll figure out your own desires over time. You're probably straight (heterosexual), but may be curious about some things.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it's just an inferiority complex

Alexander · Answer

A big fat maybe. The biggest factor is how you feel about real people you actually know.

Drew · Answer

If your imageing them as yourself then not nessisarily. That could just be an ego thing. if you find yourself interested in the idea of being with other men then your gay but if its jsut the odea of being like them it could mean anything. Perhaps your gay and fantisizing about men as yourself is your way of dealing with internalized homophobia, or perhaps your straight and just like the idea of being more attractive or maybe your somewhere between, your the only one who can really decide that

Does this mean I am gay?

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