Am I wrong for the way I’m feeling about this guy?

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I met this guy he asked me on a date and I he told me he just got out of a relationship and gave me every reason in the book why him and his girl aren’t Together. He only told me because I asked. I asked him from the beginning does he just want to sleep with me and he said no. Im only 22 and I’m not a whore but I’m fine with casual sex I don’t look for a relationship with every guy I’m intimate with. After sex the vibe changed I know for sure he’s still with her because I found out they live in the same apartment building and he kinda rushed me out in the morning . I’m not upset that he just wanted to have sex. I just feel used and lied to because he has a girlfriend and Pursed me like he was single. I just wish he would have told me the truth about everything. I’ve been kinda depressed about the whole thing Am I being ridiculous for the way I feel and should I say something to him.

choko_canyon · Answer

So you're not upset that you were used for sex, but you're upset because you "feel used"? So then you're either trolling, or contradicting yourself out of silliness. Which is it?

? · Answer

Okay just felt you are not enough for him.  Maybe he feels you are too much work or won't put out.   Boys in high school want that score,  not much else, the same in college.   Don't go down that road.

Brian · Answer

It takes 2 to tango... and you were willing here. You were at his place and you didn't happen to notice anything that may belong to another girl there? They may just be FWB now too so you don't yet know if he's lying to you or not.

seedy history · Answer

Meaningless sex with a guy who asked you on one date is exactly that. It is not a suggestion of future involvement. So why would it matter that he's seeing someone else? He can not want her to know he's having casual sex without it meaning that they are still together. Maybe he's not a liar. Maybe he is. You don't appear to know him very well.

If you need to monitor your own behaviors more carefully, then do that.

Ana · Answer

You’re right bcuz what he did was wrong to both you AND her. You should inform her that he cheated on her, she has a right to know and it’ll establish that you don’t allow yourself to be lied to and used. That will build your self esteem for future men

? · Answer

You said you were okay with casual sex but it appears you truly want more. He had a gf and he was looking to get a little on the side which was you. Should he have told you he already has a gf? Probably but he knew it was only going to be sexual with you and he told you whatever he needed to in order to get you to let your guard down which you did.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, next time I'm fighting with my girlfriend, I'll try that one. I don't know, you win some, you lose some. You gotta take the bull by the horns to get the milk, or you gotta buy the cow, before you get the milk, or something like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Hook up with him.  It's better than fingering your own hole. You don't have to stay with him forever...use him till you find another man.  Don't let your hole dry

Am I wrong for the way I’m feeling about this guy?

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