To save your relationship, would you pick your partner over your parent?

My parents will always come before anything else.....they gave me a life,a good upbringing.They taught me right from wrong,put food on the table and clothes on my back....I owe my parents everything and will always be indebted to them for the wonderful life they gave me.No partner could ever take their place.

1000 times out of 1000.  

If my parents did something horrible to me or my partner that's for me to decide how I want to deal with and not my partner's place to ask me to chose between my parents or them.  Luckily my parents and in laws are all reasonable people who try to do the right thing and any misunderstandings are quite minor so I've never really had to go down that road. Regardless I really don't do well with the whole me or them ultimatum, since it doesn't allow much room for forgiveness or reconciliation.  The problem with it is the offended partner often never valued the relationship much in the first place and asks far too much of their partner.  

To save a relationship involves a lot more than picking sides. 

Is my partner right and someone who is doing what's best for the both of us? 

It's not all black and white, but if your partner is a stand up guy/woman, has great values and morals and is doing what is best for the two of you and your own family...then by all means, choose the partner for that is what trust and unity is all about... 

Parents are not always right and should not be chosen on the fact they are your parents only. 

My parents would never interfere with my love life.. If my partner has a problem with my parents.. they can go.   I'm not putting up with bullshit.  I've been engaged twice.. married once.   My parents have done SO MUCH for both of my partners.  I don't like when people take advantage of them.  I won't tolerate it.  Just as i wouldn't tolerate if someone tried to take advantage of my partner. 

My ex fiance was a douchebag.  He really really took advantage of them.  My parents bought him so much stuff.  Gold, Watches, Gave money.. etc.  my mom would even go out of her way to cook for him.  He didn't appreciate one bit of it.. but he took it without blinking. 

my husband also got Used to being spoiled.. When i told him about it.. he stopped.  He realized he was getting spoiled.   My dad was ready to buy us a house.. and i said no. My father in law did not spend a dime on me.. In fact, he told me I had to pay him.  So it's not right that my dad did everything for us. 

I have to repeatedly ask my parents to stop spoiling my partners. It makes them lazy and arrogant. 

This makes me exceptionally picky when it comes to choosing men.  I don't tell the guys i'm dating about my family.  Otherwise, they have a tendency to leech.  Until the man actually pops the question, i won't even tell my parents about him. 

No way...................

Never never.   If both my ex and my dad were drowning, I would save my dad.

Never. A partner wasn't there when you were born.

If the relationship were a marriage or equivalent, yes, but not other relationships.