Any tips for trying not to get pi$$ed off at my immature brother?

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My 34-year-old brother has NEVER  worked in his entire life, still lives with parents and siblings, causes all sorts of problems for family members and he breaks my expensive belongings whenever he gets angry at me.

Some things I had taken to account what he did to me:

1 - Property damage. He SMASHED an  $80 bike tool of mine to pieces and left one of the $30+ bottles of solvent  half-closed so all its contents had spilled into the container containing  the other solvents and bike tools. He has no concept of money when it comes to the value of each item he has broken.

2 - Sleep deprivation. He would deliberately keep me awake at night to help him clean or to convey messages to the little sister to help clean. He also gets very angry if things do not go his way. He also wants me to stay awake up at night to make the correct water-to-bleach ratio.

3 - Defamation! I was blacklisted in error from ever attending programs for being made metrosexual because I missed out when parents took my sibs including him and because I posted lies about myself online to vent out my frustration for missing out.  Blacklisting was placed in error and my eldest sibling took unfair advantage of it by getting the sister to go back to that place and confirm my lies are true.  I was then seen as a contemptible person by metrosexuals  ever since he did that.

I would feel less angry and frustrated if I know there are others here who know what he's like.

Cee · Answer

You have issues and it's not your " brother's " fault.

Me · Answer

I don’t believe you sorry

Archer · Answer

Sue him for his vandalism and get new stuff.

STEVEN F · Answer

Try impersonating someone with the maturity of someone half his age.

Anonymous · Answer

Jan, once again MOVE OUT.  You're an adult (if we are judging by age, not maturity).  MOVE OUT.  Move in with the mother of your child (someone I haven't seen mentioned in months and months).  And as far as defamation, you defamed yourself:
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"I am currently a patient with this mental heath organization. Mercy Mental Health. (Wyndham Clinic) Phone number. +61 3 8734 1550 (8AM - 3PM AEST) Patient name Jan Harmond Dacion. Please do not complicate my situation by telling them any other problems I don't have, as I am trying to get a 2nd opinion that will show I have no mental illnesses that will then allow me to start a career. Don't take away my life. ."
https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20180610112705AAYH1cG

Foofa · Answer

If he's 34 there's a strong likelihood you're over 18, meaning you can move out and find a safer place to keep your stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

Kudos to you, Jan for at least trying to change your story in an attempt to hide your true identity.

Anonymous · Answer

Humm... really?

Anonymous · Answer

Suggest to him that he get some mental help. Save up your money to move out and then cut ties with him for good. Don't associate with him anymore. Report him to the police when he damages anything of yours or breaks the law. Don't let him get away with doing those things or else he'll do them over & over and not understand there's a consequence for bad behavior.

Anonymous · Answer

If you have your own place keep your things with you and do not worry about what your parents allow him to do. If he annoys you that much just stay at your own place.

Any tips for trying not to get pi$$ed off at my immature brother?

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