Carly

 My mom is home all day (retired and has illness) and she usually is talking the on phone all day everyday. While I don't have a problem with that, she recently became lazy to hold the phone up to her ear, so now she puts it down and puts on the speaker button. It has become really annoying because I can hear all her conversations, but also the other people, on the other side of the phone can usually hear background sounds (me and my brother walking around, making food or going to work) so they complain and my mom after the call yells at us and tells us to be quiet and that we are disrespectful. My mom is on the phone all day, so she constantly wants no sound and wants us to literally go away when she's on the phone cause of the speaker but I don't understand why she can't just go off of speaker, so my brother and I can actually go around the house and do our things. We also pay the mortgage, with our rent. 

Would It be unfair or rude if I asked my mom to stop using the speaker phone all the time?

So my friend is morbidly obese. She's been like that since we met in high-school. While we do get along and love each others company, she can't leave her house because she can't stand for long periods and she's ashamed of her weight. I tell her not to be ashamed but her health along with size, makes it impossible for her to get out and be active. While I do love her and love hanging out and just chilling out, I do like hiking and stuff like that. I was interested in joining some active groups and possibly making more friends, who are interested in what i like, but my friend takes it really personal and thinks that I don't want to be friends with her cause she's big. She wants me to come over like every weekend and hangout at her house, which I usually do, but I also would like to get out some weekends and do my things since I work all week. If I tell her this and tell her that I would love to come over, but I have plans, telling her what I'm doing with my other friends or activity group, she gets angry and thinks I hate her and am trying to replace her. She dosen't  believe in having a lot friends. I love her as a friend and love our time hanging out, but I still like to get out and do my own thing once In a while and I don't think its bad to want to make more friends or join groups that like my fave activities. What should I do in this situation? 

Thank you. 

, So my friend was ignoring my texts on messenger for a few days, because she was going through some problems. She finally messaged me the day before we were supposed to hang out, telling me what was going and that she wasn't sure if we should hang out or not. I nicely told her I'm here if you want to talk, I'm sorry that your going through that and we can hangout another weekend, if that's better. She saw my message yesterday about 7 hours ago and has not responded to me. It's my birthday on monday and that's why we were going to hang out, but my friend and SO are in bad financial troubles. 

So I just have a small question regarding shipping at wayfair. Has wayfair ever given you the wrong parcel company? I bought a bed frame and mattress recently from wayfair. The mattress was 2 day shipping from inside Canada (where I live) which I got 2 days ago. The bed frame is supposedly coming from the United States and the site states that it might take me longer to get the item, because if the pandemic. It will take 2 to 3 weeks. The frame shipped out 1 day ago and it said it's being shipped by UPS and today there was tracking information on wayfair site, but it was very limited and it states that international orders are very limited. Now I went and put the tracking number on the UPS site and the number didn't exist in their database, so I went and put it on a tracking app for all companies and it came up FedEx. Looked it up on the FedEx site and it said it wasnt international (shipping from British Columbia) and the estimated date is only a week from today (which is not a big deal lol) I just wanted to know if wayfair does this a lot. It just worries me, only because I want to make sure nothing is messed up. 

So my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer last year. While she was given only a few months to live, she has beaten the odds and it's over a year now (and shes still going strong, the Tumor hasn't grown). Now after a month of finding out about the cancer she quit her job and retired, but her retirement income is very slim since she was a hairdresser and did a lot of her work was self employment, and she gets 300 from odsp, which not to be rude, but my mom is not good with money and has a bad drinking problem (for years). My brother (20) and I are supporting her by paying for the mortgage and helping with other financial things(her money is always gone in a split second) and things have gotten crazy, she is out of money and asking us for our rent early or just asks for money almost everday (like 40 a day or so) and it's hard doing that all the time. I have been thinking about wanting to move out on my own and look at my own place (I'm on odsp for a learning disability, so I'm looking at applying for subsidized housing) but when I talk to my mom about moving out she goes bizerk and tells me that I'm her only support and if I move out I'm ruining her life and gonna make her sell the house and have nothing and I'm abandoning my own mother and being selfish. She then tells family who also gives my sh*t, telling me I cant move out because my mom needs my money (financial support) to survive and that we will own the house when she passes (but shes doing good)

So I know my friend went through some family issues last week and we ended up not hanging out last week because of this, but we have still been texting back and forth for the last few days.Recently though she has been either sending me one worded messages (like yeah or lol) or she will ignore me completely, so I decided to leave it until she decides to get back, because I feel like the convo is very one sided. I not upset about everything since I know she has a lot on her plate, but it would be nice to hear from her that shes okay and just needs some time to herself, but she just looks at my message and says nothing back, which makes me feel like she dosent want to talk to me at all. I'm on here though because last night after I got home from work, I noticed some people talking on a snapchat group that i was added into about a year ago. (It consists of my friend, her gf, her younger sister and a bunch of other aquatinces I met either through my friend or through high school. They were all talking on there having a good time (my friend included) and sending pictures of there pets and laughing and such, so I decided to send some pictures of my new kitten and literally everybody on the snapchat group ignores me and acted like I didnt send anything. I tried to not let it get to my head, but it really irked me when my best friend and literally everybody on the group acted like I didnt exist. I dont want to bother my friend, but what should I do in this situation?

So my ex Boyfriend and I broke 2 years ago. It was somewhat difficult, but I knew I needed to end it and I'm happy now. 

After I ended it with him he started dating a girl literally the same day I broke with him(family member told me) and he started talking to this girl a month before I ended things(said they were just friends, but went to her house one night when I was working and slept over) I've had issues with him possibly cheating on me the whole time we were together. I found evidence and when I confronted him about it, he told me that nothing was going on, he just had some sort of arrogance problem and loved knowing people liked him and would lead these said people on, but never do anything. I was an idiot to believe him. 

About a few months after we broke up I was thinking about all this evidence I found and I was angry so I took out my phone and went into his email(still saved on my phone) and started looking for stuff. I found stuff that was horrible, but one thing I found was absolutley disgusting. I found a conversation he had with a girl from his high school about getting together with her (we were a month into our relationship) as I read on I searched this girl on facebook and found out that she was 15 when my ex was talking to her and he was 19, almost 20(he just graduated high school) I wont get into details, but my ex was in my opinion grooming her and talking about taking her virginity whe she was ready and telling her how to dress sexy. What should I do? 

So I was browsing the curve + size section on SHEIN and I decided to check out the size chart(make sure it would fit) and I'm really dumbfounded by the waist size cause its like a really big gap in between the sizes. 

0 xl waist is from 29.8 inches to 47.6 inches. (I'm a 47.6) 

1 xl waist is from 32.4 inches to 49.8 inches 

2 xl waist is from 36.0 inches to 52.0 inches 

3 xl waist is from 37.0 inches to 54.5 

4 xl waist is from 39.7 inches to 56.7 

5 xl waist is from 41. 5 inches to 59.8 inches. 

So I'm not sure what size to go with since the gap is big cause like I'm a 47 waist but im not gonna fit in a 29 waist, and the 5x says 41 waist to 59. 59 would be like way to big me, but 41 waist is to small. So it's very confusing and kind of stupid if you ask me. What would you guys do?? Or what size should I got with or just say bye to SHEIN? 

I was just wondering if anybody can tell my which kind of scale is more accurate to use for weight loss. (Electronic or the old-fashioned glass dial)

My mom has an electronic scale at home. I've been using now for about a month and I went from weighing 220.8 lbs to now weighing 214.7 lbs. I went to my dads today to celebrate Father's Day and I went into my dads bathroom. He has an really old glass dial scale from his mother that she had since he was like 30 ish ( he's 62 now) and I took my weight on that and it says I'm 209.9 lbs.

So I was just wondering if I was to buy my own scale, which one would be better? and what scales are more accurate for trying to lose weight?

So for the past few my recurring UTI's have been getting worse and worse. First when I was younger it came about once a year but now that I'm menstruating and sexually active( also masturbation) I get them like every 2 to 3 weeks.

While it can happen now and again when I do start my menstrual period, that usually happens when I have intercourse or when I masturbate. So I looked online and I started following some steps to help with the recurring UTIs I clean anything I use twice before and after I clean my private area before and after and I also urinate before and after and I started putting condoms on anything I use, but still no help. I get a uti everytime I'm sexually active even if I do good hygiene and it's really upsetting me. I'm making a doctor's appointment to talk to my family doctor about it cuz really pissing me off and I try to talk to my mom about it but she just yells at me and calls me gross cause she dosent believe In masturbation and toys.

I've been on like almost every antibiotic you can think of for a UTI and every time I go to the doctor and I try to ask them what I should do and they are pretty much like I don't care or do cranberry ( tried to no avail)

So my mom does not like the way I dress when I go to bed. She says the pants I wear away too short even though I don't really think so but anywho. She also is an adverb drinker so whenever she's drinking she's constantly on the phone with whoever she's friends with a lot of them are men. Well one night I came down wearing pajama short shorts with bananas on them and she was talking to some 50 year old guy she used to be friends with in our old hometown, and she blurted out to me well isn't that appropriate whilst rolling her eyes at me. Of course her male friend hurt her and he asked what was going on and she went on and on about how I look like a whore with my *** and V××××a hanging out and that im a big fatty who dresses like a ***** who is rude to everybody around dressing so inappropriate. Now this isn't the only time she's done this. She's done this 15 other times with about eight other older guys she talks with. I've gotten upset before and I told her how it makes me feel but she says she doesn't give a **** how I feel and I should just f****** grow the f****** up (pardon my french) I'm just not sure what to do with all this? It makes me upset that she always has to talk about me like that to everybody she knows. It makes me feel really uncomfortable and a lot of her friends who are women will comment to me telling me to act more mature. I do try to but nothings good for my mom, and my dad isn't any help cuz he just goes like "meh" (they are separated) I wish he cared. 

So my friends and I have been talking about traveling together for a few years now ( we all have passports) we all planned on trying to save since last winter and I've been doing pretty good ( also getting new car) but my friends have been having difficulties saving since their pay is almost not enough to pay for their everyday situations. My friend has health problems and cannot work ( but wont get benefits) so her SO works for both of them, which most of the time they end up with little to no money. For about a month they had nothing and were eating just plain bread. Of course after this I kind of thought that we could call it quits on trying to plan a vacation but usually they'll go from not having any money to having money and then they'll go on and on about planning a trip all together and talk about let's look at how much it is but the a couple days later or like a month later they'll have no money again and it'll be in the same situation they just were in. I do want to go on a trip with them but I only want to make a trip if I know they can afford it. I usually try to talk to them about it but they get kind of upset. So this whole talk about trips keeps coming up all the time and they want to plan something. We've been planning for a year and every time we kind of talked about it about a month later they have no money but then couple days later they get a little bit of money in and then they start all over again. Went on trip with my dad last year. It upset them. 

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So I bought a bathing suit on 

amazon through a seller called meligirls (us company). It was $32 and I got it in a US size 26-28. I got an email today regarding that it has been shipped out and I'll get it probably in about 2 or 3 weeks but I noticed that the carrier is China Post. I was just wondering if that means that Meli girls uses China to make their bathing suits or is it being sent from China and its in chinese sizes. Just wondering cuz I ain't going to fit in a Chinese size LOL.

So I bought a pair headphones off of skullcandy.com and I use my credit card and I got an email stating that I had use my credit card on this website for this amount and on my Scotiabank app the amount was in with the pending transactions. Well it's been about probably 5 or 6 days and I went in to my account tonight and the amount for the headphones is out of the pending but it's not showing up in my posted transactions. So I'm not really sure what's going on cuz the headphones are already being shipped to my house, and I'm not sure if the money has been taken out of my credit card. What should I do? Should I wait until I get the headphones? 

So I live in Barrie Ontario Canada. Recently at my job I have been put on a job and it is a more High demanding, job that I've never been on before, so it's very stressful for me. To add I'm also on ODSP which is a support program for people with disabilities in Ontario.

We've had a lot of people leave in the last couple months so we've been very short and I've been doing extra jobs than I usually do, and I've been staying late every night for the last 2 weeks. So I've been getting very worn out at my job and have been getting very stressfull and agitated and feeling mentaly sick all the time.

I am literally worried about work all the time, and find myself either breaking down and crying at work or when I get home. So I'd like to know what you guys think I should do. I was thinking about either going to the doctors or the ODSP office and getting a note stating I can't do this job cause its to stressfull on my mentality, but im not sure. At my work I'm the only person that knows how to do this job cuz most of the people have already left. So I'm really not sure if I have a lot of choices on what to do, and I'm worried about what my work might think but also I'm worried about my health if I continue what I'm doing.

So I've been talking to a guy for about a couple weeks now and me and my friend and her significant other have made a plan to go out on a double date this coming weekend. We have everything planned out for the whole day and we've already approved the date with the guy.

Now just today my friend messaged me before I went to bed asking me if I want to go to Niagara Falls this weekend. Now the guy I'm meeting does not have a lot of money so obviously he's not coming with us so I ssid to her we made plans to meet with the guy for a double date so I don't really want to go to niagra falls. After I messaged her that, she message me back and said a girl from her work and her friend are going so I thought maybe we could just get in your car and we could join them up and up in Niagra falls( im the only person thats drives) and we could split a hotel and have some fun. Well my mom is a deathly sick right now and I don't really have a lot of money to go on a weekend vacation. Plus I don't really want to cancel plans with the date I have. I told her that I don't want to go but she got kind of Moody about it and pretty much told me that this guy that I'm meeting seems really annoying and that she doesn't want to meet him and that he dosent seem right for me. I havent even met him. So I'm still not going to cancel the date for a trip I don't want to go on. Im the only person with a license so I feel like a limo service. What do you guys think I should do in this situation?

So I've been living with my mom for about 2 years now and I pay $400 a month for rent. My mom recently got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer so she has to be on a special diet and she's also very weak so she can't really get anywhere. So her friends went out and got her groceries and they literally crammed the fridge freezer full of food so right now it's full of my mom's special diet food and my brothers special food(he has IBS). so ever since my mom had to buy all this food there's been no room in the fridge for me to put anything. I've been kind of just trying to get what I could in the fridge but recently my mom is getting annoyed by it. Today I went and bought a couple frozen dinners and my mom freaks out on me saying where the hell are you going to put those and that I can't use a fridge anymore or freezer because it's too full... why don't you just go out and eat at work and going on about how her stuff is more important so I can't use the fridge or freezer. Later on I had called my dad to ask him about looking at a little mini fridge freezer combo but then my mom freaked out on me saying we don't have room in the house for that don't you f****** dare get that s*** in my house. So I'm not sure what to do...my dad wont do anything and I need the fridge. Its not like I can go without a fridge. What do you guys think I should do? I don't really have the money to move out right now and my dad won't let me live at his house so I'm in a little bit of a pickle.

So I just recently bought a pair of Skullcandy Jib wireless headphone with microphone line included.

I set up the headset to my phone and the headphones work perfectly fine, but the microphone doesn't seem to work. I usually only used headphone part but I wanted to try the mic for some Android apps like Smule karaoke and other karaoke apps but whenever I try to use the app with the microphone only works with the built-in microphone in the phone itself, but mic also doesn't work with anything else either... I can only get built-in microphone to work.

The headset is connected to my Bluetooth and it tells me that I can use both microphone and headphone but only the headphone part works in my phone (i have an LGG6) and I've tried to go through all the settings to change the TTY and I've tried to find a section where you can make it so that the only microphone you use is the Bluetooth one but there's no way of doing that so I'm kind of lost on how to make the microphone work on my phone... so could somebody please help me it would be much appreciated so I could sing on music karaoke apps.. and there is also no way of making the headphone microphone work in the actual app itself.

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Got the water globe as a gift when I was being born. For a long time the globe has never had a sticker underneath to tell you what the song is so I never found out what the song is. I would like to see if anyone on here knows what the tune is and can name the song for me. Been trying to find ever since I was in high school but nobody can name it.

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I woke up this morning from in my boyfriends house and found these 5 raised circucal bumps on the inner top of my arm...I think they might be hives cause i've had problems with hives at my boyfriends house before...but i've never had bumps that look like the ones I have now. Was wondering if anybody here knew what they were and if they are hives or not