My boyfriend, and the 'other' man...?

If as you say, you love each other, then this is not the time to abandon him. Think of how your b/f feels, battling cancer and facing possible death. This is when he needs love and support the most. Instead of fighting over your uncertain future and feeling angry, this is when you should be drawing closer together and expressing your love for one another. You don`t know how much more time you will have together. He is probably frightened and more uncertain about his future than you are. If his prognosis was good for long term, then you could go ahead with whatever plans you had before he got sick, but since it isn`t, leaving him now in his most desperate time does not seem like the right thing to do. Do not let your daydreams of the other man come between you and your b/f at this time. Wait a bit longer to see where your b/f`s illness is heading. I wish peace to you both. Unless you have been there, cancer is a devastating, frightening thing to cope with. Try to be strong in this trying time, and stand by your man.

talk with your man and be honest how does he feel about the relationship. You all have not been together for very long so you might have come to a snag in your relationship anyway without the added complication of him having cancer. you need to reevaluate what's up with the dude in your lessons class? it doesn't sound like love to me more like infatuation whatever you do make sure you do right by the man with cancer. and doing right means not staying in a relationship out of guilt be honest with him. that's not going to be easy because there is not really a way you can avoid hurting him. If you know your not strong enough then let him know. but you should sick with him be it friend or or girlfriend. but obviously you have feelings for him still.

is ur boy friend in re-mission ? give him this web site maybe it will help him , www.floressencetea.com and if ur boy friend didnt have cancer would u still be looking at another ? u know fear of what may happen to him with the cancer u are trying to get away to shield yourself from the pain of what may happen later , but i think it would be best for u if u dont want to be with the boyfriend then stay single , because the guilt of leaving him in his " time of need " might be more than u can handle later , give urself some time to think things over ,

The most plausible reason for you noticing this other guy, is the stress over your boyfriend's situation has finally gotten to you. You're looking for a way out, in a very subconcious manner.

If you love your boyfriend, you'll know it just by the amount he means to you. Don't let a few butterflies destroy your boyfriend and your life.

Guilt and infidelity can destroy a person

bahl is right you should turn to someone who knows you and your situation, its hard for someone who know nothing about you to make a judgement on the situation and what you should do... I think you have answered your own question anyway you feel trapped you can't plan your future and you think this boy at the classes will give you all that... You sound like a really nice girl in a really sad situation and i like bahl will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.... I really feel for you.

You're in a very stressful situation here, and my heart goes out to you.

I wonder if you've sought any counselling for yourself.

Perhaps talking everything out with a trusted confidante will help clear your mind, and you'd be able to make choices in your life without guilt.

Good luck, mate, my prayers are with you and your boyfriend in this troubled time.

People have unique tastes. I opt for boys and not using a piercings.For me piercings makes a man appear like a punk or insurgent. I do have a pal man who has an earring at his left ear, does not trouble me a bit of and he appears k. Maybe there are men who appears well or now not in piercings.

Hi I think that to say you feel trapped by the situation of your boyfriend having cancer comes across as incredibly selfish, I think you don't truly love him as you seem more concerned about how your life has been put on hold than about supporting him. You need to be more sensitive to how he is feeling otherwise he may be better off without you around.

trade places with your boyfriend and see how you will fill if your were in his shoes. it's your choice if you want to live your life to the fullest or you would want to be there just as friend. Ask him if it's alright for you to have friends and if not he dying and selfish.