My wife kinda cheated... what now?

if she kinda cheated......... you need to decide if you want to ....... kinda forgive her.

If you've been looking for a way out AND it's easy to picture your life without her I think you shouldn't string her along.

Something is missing there for BOTH of you regardless of if you were gone for 6 days or 6 months.

I think you should have a long talk with her about how you both are feeling and what you want.

You should at least do this and try to work on whatever void is clearly there; if that void does not disappear within (let's say 18 months to 2 years) and you still feel the same then I think the answer is clear.

It sounds to me like you are taking the path of least resistance. Your life is obviously very busy right now and frankly, it doesn't sound like you are giving your marriage the attention it needs. You say you genuinely love your wife, so why use her "kiss" with another man as your marriage escape route? If you wanted out, you should have let her know. I think you two need to spend some real time together before you make such a large decision.

You are torn between a rock and a hard place. On the one hand, you love your girlfriend and want to forgive and trust her; on the other, your feelings were hurt, your perspective of your relationship has been changed, and you don't want to feel taken advantage of.

The way you think about your relationship, "flawless and pure," might skew your perception; particularly those of the "LDR" caliber. Because we don't see the person as frequently, we can idealize our relationship about those few precious in-person times. Unrealistic expectations may alter your healing process if you allow those thoughts to take over. Instead, you might approach your situation as a chance to strengthen the bond you two once shared. Perhaps you could sit down with your girlfriend and each make a list of all of the qualities you love about one another and another list about things that need improving in your relationship. Exchange lists and write little love notes next to the "nice" comments and possible solutions next to the "improvement" column. Exchange lists one last time, taking the time to read aloud what each of you wrote. This exercise may demonstrate your love for one another without curtailing a little constructive criticism.

Another possibility may be to explore your feelings by agreeing with your girlfriend to allow yourselves to see other people. Dating helps pose two options: first, it may help you realize partners who are better suited for you, allowing you to cut your losses and move on; or second, realize you truly love your girlfriend and believe her regrets are legitimate, thus enabling you both to work through your past problems and move forward as a couple.

Before you make your final decision, on a piece of paper, you can weigh out the pros and cons of staying with your girlfriend. If the "good" list outweighs the "bad" one, your answer may be evident. If, however, the situation is reversed, you may want to take some time to figure out your options with a trusted friend, family member, or counselor.

Both of you don't really seem happy or satisfied in your relationship. Honestly in your situation I would sit back and weigh the pros and cons of your relationship. You may find it very hard to trust her in the future and this will put even more strain on the marriage. Even though she says that he initiated the kiss she let it get to that point. For me if my husband cheated, whether it be something as small as a kiss or sex, it would be over. She obviously had some sort of emotional connection to him. Maybe talk to a couples counselor if you want to make it work but if not I would just move on.

from what you say " a small tiny part of me seems like it has been waiting for this opportunity for a legitimate reason to quit"; "you wish the best for her"; "it's pretty easy to picture my life without her, too."; "i prefer being by myself to being with her". you answered your own question.

it looks like you 2 should seperate and see how it goes.

she says she's sorry because you found out about the affair and obviously her attraction to her boss is higher than yours at the moment. let her be with her boss then while you go live your life.

I think that you should give her another chance...people make mistakes and she is trying to get reassigned to work with someone else who hopefully won't make a pass at her. She did apologize and you say you still love her if it were me i would give another chance because it is not like she cheated and wants to leave you and she did not initiate the kiss, he did. he is the one who should have known better and she trusts you enough with full honesty to tell you about what happened. I think that she is a keeper after all she did fess up and she could have kept it a secret. true love would get through this hurdle I believe.

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She chose you it is clear. Some honest/attractive married people have had at some point someone "hit" on them. The difference is in the choice they make regarding their marriage vs. infidelity. She chose you based on her reaction (sick/personal day/transfer etc and honesty with you).

What do you choose? Once you can answer that honestly to yourself then you can resolve this.

Good luck

You can still save your marriage and you should do what you can to do so. Both of you should go together to marriage counseling or have a meeting with your pastor to get the guidance you need.

There will be problems in every relationship why start from scratch? Work it out with what you already have.

If you give up on a good marriage and situation that easily you will live to regret more than just your first marriage. You should'nt quit when the story just began. Good luck