First Date Deal-breaker, does he deserve a second chance?

Question

First date with a guy last night. He was (although not the usual physical type I go for) very engaging and intelligent. We had drinks over the course of two hours, and got along very well, untill he started talking about his ex! 

I politely sent him an email later saying I'd had fun, but if he wasn't over his ex enough to avoid talking about her on a first date, then I wasn't interested.

He's asked me out on a second date regardless.

Am I being to harsh, does he deserve a second chance?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

some people are a bit more open than others. He may not realize that he is doing that. If someone had a long enough relationship than, the ex is about to come up. I could see how that could bother you.. 

give him a second chance and see how it goes.. If he does it again then just kind of change the subject. if that doesn't work then say something like you know i would love to hear about your ex, but lets do it at another time.. I wanna talk about us!!

T&#39;s world · Answer

if he asked u out on a second date, then that means he's over her and won't talk about her again. good for u. straight to the point. u were not being harsh, u were being honest. u know what u want and don't have time for games. gooo girl! if he brings her up to you again. don't take a third date. some people do talk about their last relationship to new ones. no harm done, just don't do let him do it again.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! Some people are just more open about things than others; maybe he didn't see it as a big deal. If you had fun with him, try it again! I'm sure he got the point with the e-mail and if not, then you can say goodbye.

? · Answer

No. i could be respectful and advantageous to them, for sure. i will additionally be there buddy...yet so a procedures as relationship, no. relationship is an action it relatively is seeking someone to marry. And, to no longer sound offensive, i prefer to marry somebody who has an excellent previous. reason it relatively is maximum probable that people who've had incredibly undesirable pasts will many times exemplify that habit sooner or later. (as an occasion, baby molestors, even after being convicted, will in all probability molest babies returned) i've got faith in 2nd possibilities too, and in that people can exchange yet i'm in ordinary terms looking out for my very own wellfare... wish that facilitates and robust success.

Here and there · Answer

I think the decision might be in your hands for this answer. Do you want to date a guy who always talks about his ex, and not be able to give you all of his attention? But on the other hand he may turn out to be a great guy.

slicktee85 · Answer

I'd say unless you really like him don't bother giving him a second chance. Ask him how he would feel if you did the same thing to him?

First Date Deal-breaker, does he deserve a second chance?

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