Question for those who were brought up by parents who smacked?

I wasn't smacked smacked, but I was spanked and paddled growing up. There is/was nothing abusive about it. That was not the only way I was disciplined. Sometimes I was was grounded, sometimes I had to write repetitive sentences, sometimes I had privileges taken away. It's discipline just like anything else is. Honestly, looking back I think I should have gotten paddled more frequently than I did and probably up until I was a little bit older than I was when it stopped. I hated getting paddled - because I knew I had disapointed my parents bad enough to make them paddle me - not because I felt I was being abused - that thought never would have crossed my mind.

Deziree, were you really spanked? You think it makes kids feel neglected, hurt, and angry? I never felt that way. Ever. I don't know anyone who was ever spanked who has told me that they felt that way. I think you're a nut.

Smacking is abuse. I do childcare, my employers think it is abuse so did the lady who taught my safeguarding children course and my child care teacher and the law.

I was smacked as a child, i was never taught what i did wrong and why i was just yelled at and slapped. If your child is fearful of you you are really doing something wrong.

I grew up thinking it was okay to slap people who were doing something wrong this includes friends and teachers and my parents. I grew up violent with no respect. I think my parents should of disciplined me using the naughty corner and explaining to me what i did and why it was wrong.

My mum has actually apologised for hitting me as a child.

I believe everyone who smacks or hits their child is crap parent. Everyone who believes smacking children is a good form of discipline is stupid. There are better ways to deal with unwanted behaviour. I have no respect for them as parents.

If you smack your own children would you be okay with the professional you leave your kids with (pre-school, teachers) to smack them as well? If we knew at the pre-school i work in that a parent was smacking their child we would have to investigate that and it would not just be ignored.

Would you smack your kids in public? If it's such good discipline you wont mind doing it out and about.. even in front of school or a police officer?

I always see & hear of children being smacked and hit at home but never outdoors. Deep down the parents know it's wrong.

I don't think hitting a child is ever ok. A parent should be able to discipline their children without getting physical with them. My parents never hit me and I still learned right from wrong. Plus, there's no way to make a law that says "hitting is ok as long as the child did something bad." That's just asking for real abuse to take place because there's no way to really know what's going on in the house. Also, if a parent lets themselves lightly hit their child once, then they'll think it's ok to do it harder next time.

My mom taught me to never touch someone else in anger, and I stand by that.

No. Hitting does no longer train something in any respect. Once you've gotten resorted to hitting, you've gotten essentially stated "I lack the capability to train this youngster what s/he demands to understand and absence the persistence to preserve the youngster nontoxic/well mannered in different approaches till s/he's able to gain knowledge of and till I work out easy methods to train this lesson" I might desire that our educators are extra smart and good educated than that - that in combination they've the assets and potential to honestly train each youngster. And, I have spent relatively slightly of time in faculties in recent times. I'm in there frequently - very concerned. Most of the 'dangerous youngsters' are those who is moms and dads I not ever see in there volunteering. Most people volunteers ensure that we spend further time with the ones youngsters, giving them a few pleasant grownup time that they're, reputedly, lacking of their lives.

i wasn't smacked as a child, but i think a little smack on the hand wouldn't do anyone harm because i've seen people doing that + their child behaved alot better after that. it's not the worst idea in the world, but they should at least get a warning first and i think it should only be done as a last resort.

my parents also used smacking as a last resort. i hated it as a kid, but i guess it worked cause honestly im one of the most respectful kids youll ever meet. (not even just saying it.) i dont agree with the parents being punished for that because its not like theyre leaving bruises. the smack they give you is equivalent to the kind of play fighting that youd have with a friends. it stings for like 5 seconds and then you forget about it. i dont think im gunna smack my kids , but it didnt like ruin my childhood and i dont consider it abuse.

I was smacked as a child.. Maybe a little too much .. :/ but it certainly made me have more discipline. I did better at school.

Though, It did ruin the relationship with my parents.. I was really scared of them ... :/

I wouldn't ever lay a finger on my child.. :l .. (if i ever have one .. )

In my opinion smacking and hitting spanking whatever does nothing but make your children feel neglected and hurt... I myself was spanked and it made me have so much anger like what does it prove .. all I learned was tht it hurt like hell. I think kids should be punished by taking priveledges away... not hurting them

I wasn't hit as a kid but I agree if I have kids I won't be afraid to hit them a bit (not enough to make them cry for more than 5 minutes).I have seen insane kids running around stores screaming and the parent doing nothing.

i believe in discipline i know lots of people who weren't disciplined and most (not all) are either abusive, disrespectful, drug abusive etc. those i know who were disciplined are mostly decent people and have respect for their elders