Christians, can you help me out here?

Well, she doesn't seem to care much about merely being obedient to God, so I guess you need to give her something from a more pragmatic point of view. Here's what I would tell her, and this comes from the point of view of a guy.

Girls love on a deeper level much more naturally than a guy does. A guy can form a deep intimate bond too, but its like a plant that has to be left undisturbed until it forms deep roots. I'm not sure how it affects a girl, but for a guy, the sexual aspect is such a powerful, potent thing, if its entered into prematurely, it becomes the all consuming focus. When he is with you, everything in the date will merely be a prelude to him getting his physical release at some point. That will be the end goal. No longer will it be learning to know you on a deep level; learning to connect with you on a soul to soul level, learning your hopes, fears, passions, likes, dislikes, vulnerabilities, how to fulfill you, etc.. No, no more of that. It will be all about self gratification, because sex out of its place becomes a consuming fire. Your friend is sorely mistaken if she thinks it will help deepen the bond. If the relationship survives, it will be in spite of that, not because of it. And if it does survive, it probably will never be what it could have been.

Since you're a Christian, you know God created sex to be an outgrowth of true intimacy, not a means of creating it. Any time and everytime we get outside of God's order on something, we get into trouble. Be careful about your friends too. Be sure your friends are predominately believers so that you are not overcome by the world. But I do believe its good to have unbelieving friends as well as long as we use the opportunity to be a witness.

Well just think of this. If it were such a better bond for a person why do some have multiple partners? Humans are the only creatures on earth that have a ritual for courtship and marriage, as a means to start a family that has continued since Adam and Eve and Noah and his wife. Besides that it is God that gave this tradtion to man when He created Adam's wife Eve as his lifelong mate.

I could say more however the Holiday Bowl will begin in a few minutes! Go Huskies!

Edit. My advice as a father and what I've taught my three sons and daughter. Wait until marriage. That is God's way.

Perhaps the fun is in the wist.

The purity you have set as a goal is a good one. When you marry you will have most real joy and hopefully longer happiness as one. Forget the stagg parties too.

Kissing and hugging can help you to some degree.

She likely needs prayer to withstand the cuturasl accptaance of impurity and you as well.

Kindnesss, affection and non intercourse can save you a fortune too.

It is also the rejection of non performance.

I guess you need to go to God through Christ and give her a future husbands answer of maturity, honestly that she will accept.

Fear should not take place after marriage, You sound young and cautious or afraid to risk gettinh her pregnanat and offending God by caving in to sin many forget about.

If she loves you know and honors your decison she she still be as close or regain closeness as she accepts your reasons.

So to some its like hey the wedding and then a first time is like being too good to be true. After all everyone wants a virgin.

This I will share too as your physical develop is slower in males as opposed to males. So women are ahead at a younger age to body deveopmentand more naturally ready.

Your decison is good. I just hope God keeps her from sex outside your friendship. This is better for her in the long term

' Nice to see the prity and grace of God to wait/

Why sex after matrimony ? Because you have the laws to protect you ! You have the marriage covenant to protect you ! Then your trust in the faith fullness of your beloved is greatly enhanced !

Sex before marriage is just cheap trill. It reflex irresponsibility and lack of genuine commitment !

It show that the man want sex not love ! Love is very much mix up with 'sex'

Love means to be responsible, caring and take care of the needs of the other. And love is patient

and not self seeking !

Lust ( sex before marriage ) shows faulty character , someone who want immediate gratification now

and don't care about any consequence later ! What if by accident you got pregnant ! Will you then abort your baby because you are not ready for family life ?By the way Christian'sboy are called prince ! Do you expect prince to behave this way ? They are fake Christian if they behave this way!

Girls view premarital sex very differently than guys do. Some things changes emotionally for the average girl once she had sex with a guy. As one girl put it, "She knows that she has given a piece of herself to him, and she also knows he hasn't committed himself to her for a lifetime. They aren't married; he can leave whenever he gets tired of her." So now, whether the girl wants to or not, she begins to feel possessive and worried about losing him. She also feels that he now 'owes' her something, such as spending a lot more time together. From that point one, even if she has positive feelings, she still experiences strong feelings of possessiveness, insecurity, clinginess, or self-doubt.

Yikes! Not exactly what most guys expect when they accomplish what they believe is their greatest sexual achievement. Do you wonder how a physical act can change everything emotionally for a girl? Do you wish the positive feelings girls talk about would outweigh their negative feelings? Do you think the hundreds of girls interviewed were overreacting? As you surely know, the girl isn't the only one who will feel emotional consequences from sex outside a marriage commitment. In Shaunti and Lisa's survey for the book 'For Young Women Only,' they found that two-thirds of the guys admitted that when a relationship turned sexual, they began to wonder whether they could totally trust their girlfriend. And of course that messes everything up.

Also, realize that sex before marriage can fill you head with lies that can come back to sabotage your relationship with the wife God brings you. Think about it. You know that you carry around a file of visual memories that never quite go away. Under the inevitable stresses of marriage, your brain will tell you that the sex you had before marriage was way better than anything you have with your wife. Of course, your brain is comparing reality with fantasy. Trust us on this one: You don't want to deal with that kind of junk in your future. Instead, 'pay it forward,' to you own marriage. Once you're married, you won't for one second regret all that effort you invested in waiting.

Well, I think of it this way.

If you have only had sex with one person, with whom you are in a covenant marriage, you are having the best sex you have ever had in your life every time!

On the other hand, if you have had sex with different partners before marriage, every time you have sex during the marriage, wouldn't you be apt to compare your husband with any or all of your other partners? How satisfying would that be to either of you, if you are busy remembering when "X" did thus and so, or when "Y" did THAT!

This option has the potential to make your husband feel like a failure, and you to feel unfulfilled.

This is a lesson that she has to learn on her own. As of right now her heart is hardened. I'm sure there will be chances in the future where she is really hurt and may come to you. I'm not sure she will want to hear the I told you so but you can tell her that I don't think your ideas are working out and maybe next time try it a little different.

Your going to have to pray for her heart to be softened and the holy spirit to speak through you

The only cars I ever test drove were the ones I bought and kept till I had to get rid of them. Sex is a benefit of marriage. STD's are a product of promiscuity along with unplanned or wanted pregnancies.

Promiscuous people are playing a game of Russian Roulette. Deadly.

Hats off to you for wanting to wait for marriage.

If she is craving sex to that degree better find out now than after you are married and have children what will she do if you have a family emergency and couldn’t take her with you is her desire for sex that over powering, will she give into to someone while you are away see if God will answer you on this or meditate on it this is not my religion hope this helps you.

God wants you to be pure because He wants to protect you from the consequences that sex before marriage brings. These consequences can be physical, emotional, relational and spiritual. And unless you marry the guy, its like you're having sex with somebodys future husband!