What should I get for my boyfriend's little brother to help him feel better?

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My boyfriend's little brother, about 11, is starting to get bullied by other kids in his grade for his weight (which, really isn't even considerably "fat", he's just a big-boned kid). I wanted to buy him a small present to maybe help him feel better, because he hasn't told my boyfriend personally. The only reason I know is because my boyfriend's dad told him. I want it to be subtle and small but something that would cheer him up for a little. What do you suggest? He likes monkeys, they are his favorite animal.

Before anyone questions why I would like to get him a gift, I would like to make it clear that he is completely unaware of the fact that even his brother knows, so I cannot simply give him advice without him asking; it would only upset him. I have great sympathies for him as I was bullied for most of my life, but I'm pretty sure everyone goes through a stage of bullying at some point, so I do not need to explain further. I understand that a gift will not stop the bullies, but there is nothing that I can do since I am not even a relative of his. I always feel I need to explain thoroughly and defend myself and my reasoning before I even ask these questions on here.

Angel · Answer

I am sorry to hear about this young boy having such a hard time! How about getting him a keyring with a fire agate crystal on, its not a girly looking crystal.Maybe get yourself a similar one so it doesn't look obvious.Then casually say to him lets have a  look on google to see if they have any meanings.He will see his crystal:Fire Agate

COURAGE & PROTECTION
Fire Agate is the stone of courage, protection and strength, enhancing vigar and positive thinking. It has a deep connection to the earth bringing safety and security with its calming energy. Fire Agate promotes initiative, commitment and understanding. It helps alleviate fears and reflect harm away. It helps to eliminate cravings, addictions and destructive desires.
It might give him some strength once he knows the meaning and could carry it in his pocket and hold it when in bad situations.
It may sound silly if your not into this kind of thing,but it may be comforting to him,without anyone else knowing, and you never know the crystal may work!

? · Answer

Check into the monkey keychain designs shown on the links below. Another keychain style in the paracord monkey fist designs shown on the Etsy link; no monkeys involved, just the name.

http://www.zazzle.com/monkey+vector+keychains
http://www.ebay.com/bhp/monkey-keychain
http://www.etsy.com/market/monkey_fist_keychain

Also, since the bullying is impacting and distorting his self image, his family might check into whether he has any interest in learning one of the unarmed martial arts, not for self defense but to build his confidence and provide emotional balance.

Going to school and just being a kid should not have to be so difficult. Tough for those around him to watch events unfold, and not be able to permanently fix the problem, and protect him from the bullies of life.

tawnya · Answer

Maybe you could get him something to do with monkey's, maybe something that he can use at school ie: folder, pencil/pens, pencil holder, etc etc or you could buy him a small stuffed animal (Monkey) or you could do a small gift basket and fill it with his favorite snack foods, get him a small amount of a gift card to one of his favorite places.

That is sure sweet of you to think of something to cheer him up and I hope those bullies stop soon :)

Aya · Answer

That's really sad, I hope these kids will stop bullying him.
I don't really know something with monkeys, but you can order really delicious food on this site. Maybe he'll like it? :)
https://www.sympathyfood.com/

Good luck.

What should I get for my boyfriend's little brother to help him feel better?

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