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Do the police contact the non-custodial parent when there is domestic violence in the custodial parents home?
I recently found out two months after the fact that there was a fair amount of domestic violence occurred in my exes home (custodial parent) with her husband. I understand from neighbors that there was a hostage situation and my children had to escape through a window. My youngest is 13.5 and my daughter is 18. I guess my daughters boyfriend was there and helped them to escape.
I want to know what is typical of most police departments. Why didn't they call me? What is the protocol? Why wasn't CPS called? These are the questions I am going ask the Lutenent (sp?) and/or Chief, but was wondering what is done else where?
My children were embarrassed I guess, and never mentioned it, and I found out only through a neighbor when I bumped into her at the store.
My exes husband is now serving 18 months to 5 years in prison. How soon could he be out for good behavior?
What can I do as a non-custodial parent to protect my children?
Any help or guidance would be most appreciated.
1 Answer
- yogicskierLv 78 years agoFavourite answer
There's probably no requirement for the cops to contact you. That's really your exes duty.
First, go to court and gain at least partial custody. You don't mention why you're not custodial, but unless there's a legal reason you should be able to have joint custody. If you've had legal problems in the past but have straightened out your act (you'd have to show at least a year of good behavior, I would think, but it depends on what you were charged with), that can be part of your custody petition.
If she put them into a hazardous situation with her relationship to her new husband (and it seems that she has), that would be further grounds to revisit the custodial relationship.
As for why CPS didn't get involved, it depends on where you are. Laws vary by state and you didn't say where you were. I suggest you contact them and inform them of the situation.
It seems like you care about your kids, and pursuing this will demonstrate that to the authorities, so you should do what you can. Kids need both parents involved in their lives to develop fully, and most courts will try to accommodate that if they can.
Good luck.
Source(s): Former non-custodial and later full-custodial father.
