I don’t have respect for my husband anymore am I wrong or being unreasonable.?

You are probably being unreasonable.

I just wonder why are you still with him ?

"I don’t feel like he’s a good leader." - Who is he supposed to be leading?

"He gives money to anyone with a sob story" - So he's soft/kind hearted. Many consider that a virtue.

" he treats all women equivalent. " - Not sure why that is supposed to be a bad thing. Hopefully he treats them all respectfully.

"He claims to do things a lot but gets upset and doesn’t fall through." - That's the first thing you said that I can see you being bothered by. Someone without integrity, who doesn't keep their word, cannot be trusted. No trust = no relationship.

"Am I just being a brat and unreasonable for why I don’t respect him?" - I can see having low respect for someone who doesn't keep their word. I don't see any reason any of the other things you mention, would negatively impact your level of respect for him.

I must ask, Who was arranging the divorce? You said "we" but it sounds more like "I was arranging a divorce".

Either way you were about to split so how he treats another woman is really not your concern is it?

Second, you don't respect him so he will never be a good leader in your eyes because you refuse to follow.

Lastly, and maybe most important, you apparently think that this is all his issue when in fact the tenor of this question

leads me to believe that he is saddled with a pain in the butt wife. You might just consider that the way he treats you

might be a reflection of your treatment of him. If you don't respect him to the point of divorce before why should it be any different now as you keep bring up what happened during that time? Have you changed your attitude an iota? Doesn't sound like it.

There is no way I would treat you with any concern if that was your attitude toward me.

The major difference between me and your husband is I would tell you, " You are a pain in my butt.

I'm not forcing you to stay but you need to change your attitude or get out of my house."

If you don't respect your husband anymore, why do you stay in your marriage?

Let me get this straight ... you have lost respect for a husband you are divorcing? I don't know if your husband is deserving of your respect, but you are joining a very large group of divorced women who feel the same.

Divorce. Now.