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Will I one day move in with my girlfriend ?

So me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months and she has her own house and I live with my parents. I did mention living together to her and she said she likes her alone time so not for a while but one day! Like if I were to move in with her how does it work? Do I just pay all her bills of something? The other thing is when will I move in with her? What if in 10 years time we get married and have kids and we are still not living together? Is her house going to prevent us from living together? Because I could start saving for my own house well I have been. But I like her enough to want to eventually live with her! She had said things like we should get a tooth brush and blanket to keep at her house so what does that mean? Should I dump her and just and find a girl who doesn’t have her own home? My girlfriend said she will be upset if I left and I’m the only guy she wants but I don’t know. Apartments in NZ are soooo expensive like $200 a week I don’t want to do that! Then if I did the problem will still be there! Is it just going to be I go and stay at her place on the weekend and she comes to mine during the week for the rest of my life. Should I even worry about this? What should I do? Will I get to move in with her??

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
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    For the long-term health of the relationship, please consider not moving in with her.

    Here's some information from the book True Love Lasts about living together:

    Question: Is living together a good choice?

     The number of unmarried couples living together has skyrocketed during the past few decades. Many of these couples think that living together isn’t a problem because “pretty much everyone is doing it.” It’s now unusual to attend a wedding of a couple who hasn’t lived together.

    I’ve heard lots of reasons why people live together including, “He’s not ready to make a commitment”, “We want to be sure that we’re compatible”, “Two can live almost as cheaply as one, it’s helping us to save up for a house”, “We want to work for a few years before we get married”, “We’re going to get married eventually, we’re just not sure when”, etc.

    My opinion is that living together is a bad choice - no matter how many people are doing it. Most research shows that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to:

    - eventually get divorced than couples who don’t

    - be unhappy in their marriage than couples who don’t

    - cheat on their wife/husband than couples who don’t

    If your significant other wants to live with you before marriage, it’s a sign that he or she may not be a strong person because a strong person* always tries to make a good choice, a choice that’s the best thing for the health of the relationship in the long run - and this includes the hard choice of deciding not to live together.

    *A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money). 

    Hope this helps!

    Source(s): True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults, Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
  • 2 months ago

    You’ve been together 3 months, relax

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Don't feed the troll.

    Reported for SPAMMING

  • 2 months ago

    Before two people ever move in together, they discuss the important things -- finances are a big topic... how the household chores are done and maintenance will be paid for, and more. Just moving in on a whim is a huge mistake.

  • 2 months ago

    you'll find out later if you do

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    It sound like you just want to move in her house to save money. And you're moving way too fast, anyways. It's only been three months, the relationship is just getting started.  

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    you'll find out if it happens

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