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Will I one day move in with my girlfriend ?
So me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months and she has her own house and I live with my parents. I did mention living together to her and she said she likes her alone time so not for a while but one day! Like if I were to move in with her how does it work? Do I just pay all her bills of something? The other thing is when will I move in with her? What if in 10 years time we get married and have kids and we are still not living together? Is her house going to prevent us from living together? Because I could start saving for my own house well I have been. But I like her enough to want to eventually live with her! She had said things like we should get a tooth brush and blanket to keep at her house so what does that mean? Should I dump her and just and find a girl who doesn’t have her own home? My girlfriend said she will be upset if I left and I’m the only guy she wants but I don’t know. Apartments in NZ are soooo expensive like $200 a week I don’t want to do that! Then if I did the problem will still be there! Is it just going to be I go and stay at her place on the weekend and she comes to mine during the week for the rest of my life. Should I even worry about this? What should I do? Will I get to move in with her??
5 Answers
- ?Lv 62 months agoFavourite answer
You may indeed at some point move in with her.
You've only been together a few months at this point though, so relax and don't stress over it. Just focus on getting to know one another and let it progress naturally.
Good luck, sir.
- 2 months ago
If you get married you'd live together.
As to what living together is life, the short answer is that your financial arrangement is whatever you two agree upon. Maybe you split things, maybe she pays for some things and you pay for others, maybe she pays and you reimburse her for a percentage (mortgage, electric/gas/hydro, other utilities).
- Anonymous2 months ago
How many times are you gonna post this? I’m no longer taking you seriously, and now you’re just a troll. Reported.
- Anonymous2 months ago
Living together works however the people decide it should for them. That you're not welcome to move in doesn't mean you should look for a different girlfriend. It means you're rushing things.
I think you're putting the cart before the horse. Five months isn't all that long. I urge you to take her at her word and to leave things you'd want for overnight stays at her home--a clean shirt, underwear, and socks, that toothbrush she mentioned, a hairbrush, razor, like that--and save your money for whatever the future holds.
My now-husband and I split my rent, utilities, and groceries evenly, but you paying part of her mortgage payment is different. Without a formal commitment, you shouldn't be paying into her home equity.
You don't mention your age, but if you're well into your twenties, it probably is time to get your own place. You don't have to buy a house. Renting a small apartment is fine. It's good to take 100% responsibility for everything at home.
Take the time to seek something that suits you, maybe not an apartment complex but a guest house, garage apartment, or something else that feels right.
