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How long is this going to take?

So I’ve been asking my girlfriend to move in and she said yes but a week later she said she was not ready. I asked her last night will it ever happen and she said yes but do not pressure me!   So how long I need to know and she said she did not know! I have a life and I need to know it’s really not fair to me! I know that it’s going to happen I just want to know when! We have a marathon coming up in 2 weeks time and she said after that we will have a proper serious talk about it! So what does that mean? Just more talk or is something going to happen! I don’t know why she is so unsure I’m pretty much at her place  most nights anyway I’ve been there for the last week! She says she is worried about things like she won’t be able to cook me dinner every night if I was there but I can cook my own or she won’t look after me when it’s normally me who looks after her! How long is this going to talk what can I do

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  • Anonymous
    3 weeks ago
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    You are very needy and you have an unhealthy obsession with this. You’ve been posting about it for a while now. She will move in with you when and if she’s ready. You don’t get to decide this for her. The more you push the issue, the more you push her away. This whole “I need to know exactly how long it’s gonna be” thing is not reasonable or fair to her. When she is ready, she will let you know. In the meantime, continue living your life. 

    Most couples wait at least 6 months to a year before living together, some wait longer. Couples who rush this usually end up having problems. I’ve never heard anyone say “I wish I moved faster in the relationship,” but there’s plenty who wish they had taken things slower. 

    There’s a big difference between living together and staying at each other’s place. You’re pressuring her to take the next step in your relationship, and she is not ready. You need to respect that. Asking her how much longer is just obnoxious. It’s not a specific amount of time that will make her want to live with you, but a feeling of comfort, trust, and stability in the relationship. Your constant pressure to live together is pushing her away, not making her feel more secure. You need to give it a rest. Neediness is not an attractive quality, and your pressuring her is more likely to make her dump you than move in with you. If you mention this to her even half as much as you post about it on YA, I’m surprised she hasn’t left you already. 

  • 3 weeks ago

    The answer is as clear as the sun's path around the Earth as it flies through the sky, but you are too blind to see. She wishes to be with you, but your home is not yet sufficiently impressive to entice her. Just as the birds bedeck their nests with the finest of twigs to show their mate that this is the place to sire their brood, so to must you show her a home so captivating that she cannot think to live anywhere else.

    Stalk out into the plains with the men of your tribe, with spears and fire, and steal into the lands of your tribe's enemies late at night, when they slumber in their caves and the darkness of night conceals you from the eyes of their guardian spirits. Find the place where their chief sleeps and where their shiniest stones and most lustrous pelts are kept. Where trophies stolen from their rivals in battle are heaped about the skulls of their ancestors. As silent as a winter breeze you must be as you slit the throat of their leader, and gather the blood which spills from his throat in the shell of a turtle to adorn your home.

    Gather, then, the finest of his wives and the greatest of his treasures. Smash the skulls of his ancestors so that their unquiet spirits might not whisper into the dreams of his tribe the identity of the thief who has taken his life's blood for his own. Steal away back to your own lands with what you have taken, and appoint your home in these stolen goods. When next your woman comes to your home, she will see the wives of your fallen foe, now labouring for you. "See, woman! There is no need for you to cook for me! The wives of our enemy, whose blood adorns our walls, will do it for you! And as your belly grows great with our child, they will tend your needs. Our children may sip from their breasts, stealing the milk from the bastard children which I will father upon them! And look!" you point towards the shiny stones taken from his cave. "See my colourful stones! They are many, and make a fine pile!"

    If this is not enough to convince her, then she is unworthy of you, and you may take one of the more fertile among your captive women as a wife instead.

  • Anonymous
    3 weeks ago

    It’s not going to happen. You’re autistic since you keep asking the same question over and over again. She wants variety. She’s probably doing some other guy right now. She’s doing doggy style, missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, up against the wall. All you can offer is missionary since that’s all you can tolerate. New positions scares your autistic mind. 

  • 3 weeks ago

    How expensive is the ring that she wants?

  • 3 weeks ago

    Maybe shes is waiting for you to ask for her hand in marriage?

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