How long is this going to take?

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So I’ve been asking my girlfriend to move in and she said yes but a week later she said she was not ready. I asked her last night will it ever happen and she said yes but do not pressure me!   So how long I need to know and she said she did not know! I have a life and I need to know it’s really not fair to me! I know that it’s going to happen I just want to know when! We have a marathon coming up in 2 weeks time and she said after that we will have a proper serious talk about it! So what does that mean? Just more talk or is something going to happen! I don’t know why she is so unsure I’m pretty much at her place  most nights anyway I’ve been there for the last week! She says she is worried about things like she won’t be able to cook me dinner every night if I was there but I can cook my own or she won’t look after me when it’s normally me who looks after her! How long is this going to talk what can I do

Patricia · Answer

She's obviously not emotionally prepared to move in with you right now, and if you keep nagging and hounding and pressuring her, she may never be ready.

When we are in a relationship, we need to accept our partner at face value. She said "not right now" and you're pouting like a child.  Honestly?  YOU aren't ready to move in with someone either.  Too childish.

Anonymous · Answer

She told you she's not ready....what else do you need to know.

She is obviously not as into you as she thought she was.

Back off, respect her decision and stop being so needy and annoying......it's a big turn off.

Let her be, it's her apartment and her decision, not yours.

tammy · Answer

Why are you in such a rush to move into her place?

How long is this going to take?

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