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How can I feel better ?

So I want to move in with my girlfriend but she said she wasn’t ready yet. She told me that she knows of couples that are living together and are miserable! And she knows of a couple that haven’t lived together for 15 years and are the happiest most stable couple! I want us to be happy when we decide to live together and the fact that she says she needs her space every once in a while hurts like she can’t love me as much as she says! Like I miss her a lot when I’m away from her. She said when we are ready to live together we will both just know! How will we know that makes no sense to me! We have been together 5 months! How long from now should I bring up moving in again?? I just want to be with her. She says she never think about the future! Is this a bad thing! Maybe I need to end it with her and be in pain for half a year to get over her other than being confusing and worried for a lot longer! But I really like her what can I do?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago
    Favourite answer

    Five months is way too soon to be talking about moving in together. If you can't keep your feelings to yourself on this you may want to get into some talk therapy to both curb your enthusiasm and to keep you from destroying this relationship. If you keep pushing for something this prematurely this woman is going to realize you're emotionally unstable and then she might not want to be with you anymore. 

  • T J
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    Five months is too soon to live together, a year is more appropriate.

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    5 months is not a long time to get to know each other before moving in. You seem awfully needy. You take offense to the fact that she needs her own space once in a while. No couple should ever be together 24/7, no matter how long they’ve been together. If her need for alone time hurts you, that shows exactly why you should not live together. She is her own person, and does not wanna spend every minute with you. It seems like you have issues with being alone, and you want her to fix that for you. I suggest you just get on with your life. When she is ready to live with you, she will let you know. Don’t keep pressuring her. That will only push her away. You don’t need to live with her to enjoy her company. The more you obsess over this, the more I think you aren’t ready to live with her. 

  • ?
    Lv 4
    2 weeks ago

    You sound like my ex , and we didn’t last because he pressured me to be ready when I wasn’t. It made us living together uncomfortable because I did not want to live with him , especially because I wasn’t financially ready. You are going to ruin your relationship 

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    Reported for SPAMMING

  • 2 weeks ago

    Bruh its just 5 months chill out.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    You have only been together for five months, so don't try to rush her. 

    We fall madly in love, don’t we, thinking (feeling rather) that it will last forever and is enough for a serious relationship. However, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long. Eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course). If couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. If a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship will probably peter out eventually - or worse. Quite often we fall in love because we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us. Thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful. This is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sexually involved. Sex can be emotionally bonding, which is disastrous if the other things are not there: strong friendship, similar values and standards, common interests, etc.

    Source(s): JAMFORLIFE.ORG
  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    Your girlfriend is right.Don't rush into anything.Bet you won't feel the same about each other a year from now.

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