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dattguy
dattguy asked in Education & ReferenceHigher Education (University +) · 1 decade ago

Please advise me!!!?

I have attained a good undergraduate degree from the discipline of Electrical and Electronics engineering and from a top University in the UK. Now I’m studying for my masters after a 3 year gap because I realised I couldn’t compete well in the industry.

I know education is not that golden key that opens all doors but at the same time, I have tried my best in all voluntary sectors (United Nations, Cancer research) etc. Why is it hard for me to get onto my chosen career which is what I have studied for years and even gained professional qualifications?

At times, I cringe when I notice the level of mentality of my work colleagues because we just cannot chat at the same wavelength and this is not me being proud. We can never be real and even when they see me reading my TIME magazine; they think I’m trying to “show-off” as being posh (which I’m not even close in anyway, shape or form).

Update:

I am very determined and quite an all-rounder from sports to all sectors but I still get a lot of rejection when I apply to jobs at least 90%. Though people come to me for advice and tend to model their behaviours on mine and I tend to wonder why it’s so hard for my skin to hide this things.

More so, I work full time (due to work inflexibility) and study full time; though it’s hard, I’m still attaining the best result because the fees and the bills have to be paid unfortunately but I still happen to achieve a balance and I don’t call in sick at work nor stab my lectures.

Could someone please advise me because I know deeply how confident I am and people look up to me in my university department (due to my effectiveness and good results at assignments and examinations) and at work (I get often receive praise for my diligence) but they don’t know that I cry inside daily and feel deeply troubled that I get rejected daily.

This is serious please!!!

Thanks for reading.

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  • raunchy
    1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    Hi sweetie, how are you? listen you sound like,no,you are very intellegent and if people compliment you for the things that you do so let it be, thats a good thing. now what is it that makes you cry inside? do you feel lonely within yourself? do you want to have friends a certian way or do things with friends? what exactly do you want in your personal life to make you happy? you say that 90%of the time they turn you down then there is something that you are showing and they pick up that they don't want to deal with. you have a hell of a back ground and a secure future, so now sit down one day and look back and see what is it i have to do and what can make me happy and just as hard as you work on careers and degrees we sometimes have to work alot harder on ourself so we can go forward and not worry what people say or do and if they can't deal or like what you do that is their problem. you are not here to please the world, it's nice to get along with it, but it's better to live in it and be happy. do you understand what im trying to tell you? i wish i knew you personally, sound like you need a true friend and alot of hugs.where are you located if you don't mind me asking and how old are you? i live in Westchester N.Y. please keep me in touch to what is going on with you, i am really concern.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I really do feel for you, I have endured a similar situation, sometimes although it's a cliche, your face simply doesn't fit. You are probably over qualified for the jobs you do. Your overall demeanour suggest you have a superiority complex. While you say this is not true if you read your letter from a stranger's point of view it's comes over that way. I see no problem in high achieving only bear I'm mind others don't always want to know. Good luck in the future.

  • Carla A
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I think that you need to stop thinking of yourself as above your colleagues, it probably gets up peoples noses. We are all only human and enjoy a laugh together.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You say people look upto you - praise you and model them selves on you. Then you say people reject you?

    So which is it? cant be both unless your living in fantasy land.

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