overprotective dad?

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ok so there's this guy who just turned 15 i'm 14 but we're only like 8 months apart and he's still in my grade. we kinda like each other but he hasn't asked me out yet. we haven't really spent time alone together yet but we've been out like in a group of friends. i think he's going to ask me out soon so i went to my parents and asked them if it would be alright if i went out with him like we could be boyfriend and girlfriend... my mom was completely fine with it but my dad said that i was too young to be dating and i should avoid this guy... when i started to defend myself and him he told me that the conversation was over and his decision was final. i still tried to beg him to let me go out with him but he told me that he didn't want to hear another word out of me and sent me to my room. i really want to go out with this guy and i've had a boyfriend in the past... why is my dad being so stubborn? why won't he let me go out with him? how can i make him let me go out with this guy? help!

sarah · Accepted Answer

First things first--talk to your dad. It sounds like you might have started (unintentionally) whining or arguing immaturely about his decision. You don't want him to think you're any younger than you are. You need to pull both him and your mom aside and tell them that you'd like to know when you're allowed to date. It's up to BOTH of them to make the decision together--if your closer to your mom and your dad is putting his foot down, how is that fair? Your mother might know you better. You need to encourage them to talk about this and ask them about just hanging out in a group with this boy, and maybe they could even meet him. 

Good luck and best wishes!

Anonymous · Answer

I have seen a lot of girls like this with overprotective dad date "bad boys" just to find a guy that could match her father.  In my old neighborhood, her father was a cop and overprotective.  Well she was dating bad boys.  

One had a rap juvie rap sheet a mile long and tried to get tough with her dad.  To put it short, it ended up with daddy gunning down boyfriend in the front lawn of the house with no arrest made on a self-defense claim.  

She didn't get a date for the rest of her time in high school.  I don't recommend dating bad boys but instead have you mom do the "our girl is groowing up" speech to dad.

Anonymous · Answer

Trust your daddy you'll only have one.  Boyfriends will come and go but daddy's are forever!  

Give him some time and try to show dad that you are a responsible teenager and that you are growing up.  Don't push the subject because it is a sensitive topic especially when it comes to daddy's little girl.

Though you only 14 you do have a life time ahead of you to have boyfriends.  If this boy likes you and respects you he will wait till your father comes around.

Use a nickname just for Answers · Answer

He thinks of you as his little girl not his teenage daughter.
Just tell him your point of view and let him tell you his point of view.
He will probably say you're gonna get pregnant... Yada YADA
But you know that won't happen so just tell him you really like him.

Anonymous · Answer

just tell him ur goin out wit ur friends, but u really go on a date with that guy

Anonymous · Answer

just go out with him and dont tell your dad

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