How many of you think this is fair?

I think that you have a right to your feelings and you shouldn't feel bad for being upset, but I don't think that you should try to trick him into having another baby or make him feel bad for not wanting to. I think that it would be unfair to him and to the potential child if you were to try to get pregnant without telling him. He might resent you and the baby for it.

He might be scared of going through the same situation again, or it could be like he says, that he's happy with one. Either way, the decision to have another child has to be one that you are both comfortable with.

You might give him some time. He's probably had a lot of stress with the difficulty conceiving, watching you go through a complicated pregnancy, losing a twin, and becoming a father for the first time. I realize that it took a long time to get pregnant the first time, so you're probably wanting to start trying right away. But, he may not have had enough time to cope with the stress and the life change of becoming a dad.

I think that you have a right to feel let down, but try to remember that sometimes we all act out of fear. You are afraid that this new stand of his will last forever, and he is probably afraid to have to go through ( or put you through ) all of that pain and heartache again. You can let time heal, and reveal the whole situation to you, and remember that fear is awful! Many times fear will cause us to experience other, more drastic feelings... when all of those fears and worries will be for nothing. I am sure that you want to have a baby right away, but the good news is that you will have plenty of opportunity to try again, I am not sure if this is stepping over my bounds, but try to rely on God, he usually can guide us through anything.

You do, however, have a right to be upset if he really does not want to have anymore children! This is what you need to decide! Does he not want more children, or is this a faze that he is going through. Marriage is give and take, so try to be understanding, but if he is expecting you to give up on everything that you have been dreaming of in your vision of your family, that is totally not ok! Good luck!

I say he is just worried that if you have any more children then you may have worse outcomes than you did with your Logan. It sounds like you went through alot and honestly I want 8 children and my husband wants 3 but right now we are working on child 1. My sister in law had a child 17 months ago and becuse of her pregnacy her doctors told her she shouldn't have anymore beacuse it really messed up her baby machine but she still wants another child. Just because you want another you should sit down and tell your husband exactly what you want even with all the risk that could be taken and have him tell you all his worries about you having more children.

I think you definitely have the right to be upset. This is something you compromised on, and now he is upset. He may definitely be scared to go through everything again- he almost lost his son. Plus, your son is still young, and I am sure you still have the nights when you're up feeding him, etc. Give him some more time to let the fear and pain ease, and the baby to settle.

Tell him you want to try for a girl. :) It's only fair, really.

You have ever right to be upset if this situation stays the way it is. I am guessing that your boy is 2. Give him a little time and try to see if he wants to talk about what happened with you or in a support group. Sometimes, the guy tries to stay strong even when he is breaking inside. You are probably right that he doesn't want to be scared or hurt like that again. Just try talking to him, not arguing with him. It might help

I dont know your past, or whether you've been to specialists or not. but I say his thought is fair. Sure, from the get go, he didn't know you would have these kinds of complications.. and personally , I'm sorry to hear your losses. You should see it from his point of view though. He probably doesn't want the FEAR for 9 months, or seeing you in the pain that you go through, emotional and physical. He probably doesn't want to feel that hurt anymore either. Sometimes, enough is just enough.

If you haven't seen a specialist, and have just letting the Good Lord above do "His" thing.. then maybe you can approach your husband that way.. or even surrogate mothers, or adoption. There's options. But as far as his thoughts go.. I'm there with him.

Good luck to you!

I would say he is scared of going through it all again.

My husband was the same (we had major complications with our first daughter), but we ended up having two more :) There's hope for you yet. Just enjoy this time with your son and perhaps bring it up again in a few months time?

You absolutely have a right to be upset. Maybe approach the yopic at a later date like 6mths down the track. He as you said is probably scared for you & himself. Us men wont usually admit that stuff coz its not "manly" dumb i know. I think its great to have more than one. We are 12wks preg with #2 & im happy to have as many as she wants. I think just hold off & discuss it again calmly. Congrats on your 1st baby anyway :-)

yeah i don't think that is fair.. but at the same time your little one is still less than one year old then he is still the primary focus of your husbands life.. he prob cant mesh the idea of having 2 little babies at this stage.. wait till your little one is a little older and is more independant eg toilet training, not waking up in the middle of the night, able to feed themselves etc he will prob not see your little one as a baby anymore and will be able to start thinking extending his family.. at the moment its WAY to soon to be thinking about another baby for him.. let him get used to the idea of having his son be the soul focus of his life

My opinion is to just let it come naturally, as in whatever happens with you getting pregnant again, let it happen. I am religious, if this is God's plan in your life, and he knows ya'll can handle it, let God be in control of your lives! I'm being serious about this. Maybe its too soon for you to be discussing this with your husband, maybe he is scared right now, and doesn't want to hurt you and go threw another difficult time. Idk what he's thinking or you but I say let God guide you both!

God Bless.