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Son says he is gay.?

My 15 yr old son approached my recently. He said he was sorry to disappoint me, but he is gay. He said he thought he was asexual since he had no interest in girls, and his sister asked him if he ever considered guys. He thought about it, and said he liked males more. I said ok. He said that he had no interest in girls, and really no interest in guys sexually, but only interested in being friends with guys. His female friends tend to be a bit masculine. He finds effemenit men unattractive. Feels all women and girls look the same..just like cars. He finds intimacy disgusting and repulsive between man-woman and man-man. I explained to him I love him no matter what, and it does not matter. He told his friends at school and so far has not had anything happen. I told him to focus on school. His sister is telling him he needs to start dating. I told him to go at his own pace, and not worry about it. Focus on school. Any other suggestions?

Update:

Well for those of you who are interested, my son is now dating a very effeminate and flamboyant young man, and has been meeting other dudes around the city. It is not what I envisioned for my son, but he is an adult, making adult choices. I struggle with this daily, but he is in school, working, and has aspirations to be a data scientist, and seems to have much going for him. Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts.

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  • Jamie
    Lv 5
    5 years ago
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    You are correct...he should take this slow, there is not need to rush head on into dating. He will be sure of his sexuality within the next few years and be able to make a decision. Especially knowing that he has his parents support which ever way he should go. good luck.

  • 5 years ago

    Good fathering. Everything you did was right. Just let him find his own ways and maybe when some time passes, he'll start thinking otherwise about relationships.

  • 5 years ago

    Don't let his sister give him advice lol. You're doing great. And that's what he needs. Just enjoy his friends and focus on school and doing well in life and enjoying who he is.

  • 5 years ago

    I don't know what the question is here, but your son is simply going through a phase.

  • 5 years ago

    i think your advice to him was well thought out and meaningful. continue to love and support him and all will be well.

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